I love him but I don’t think I want to be with him, what do I do?

2021.10.21 00:21 Limp-Value-4259 I love him but I don’t think I want to be with him, what do I do?

How do I tell the man I genuinely love and care about that I don’t want to be with him?
We’ve been on and off for almost 4 years now. It started off with me liking him ALOT and him treating me like dirt. At first, I really wanted to be with him and he did not feel the same. Then, a little later, the tables did a complete 180. Now he’s begging to date.
It wasn’t the healthiest relationship from the start. In fact, it was kind of toxic for majority of it (nothing too crazy but still). Anyways, he’s grown and changed so much over the years. I’m not innocent either, but I completely forgave him for how he has treated me in the past. He is a wonderful man now. We have a great relationship, but I don’t think I want to commit. I love him, but not in a romantic way as I once did when we first started talking. And I don’t have the heart to say that to him, but I am honest with him in other ways- I repeatedly tell him I don’t want a relationship.
We have a very complicated, interesting relationship that no one seems to understand but us. But at this point, I feel like a horrible person by continuing to stay in touch because I can’t give him what he wants. I thought we had a mutual understanding that I wanted to be friends only. It’s complicated because I still want to be there for him, I want to hold him, and care for him when he needs someone. I don’t want to hurt him
You may be wondering- 4 years!?! Well, we know each other very well. We have so much fun together, and a lot of history. It’s difficult to let go when you care about someone.
He deserves better than me, he deserves someone who is going to love him and someone who wishes to be with him as much as he wants to be with me.
Honestly, am I a shitty person? How do I handle this?
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2021.10.21 00:21 glasswearer Should there be a dedicated class to an Animal Companion adventurer?

Spellcasters have access to familiars, Paladins will get Steeds eventually, Steel Defenders have their robo-dogs... and there's also the Beastmaster Ranger.
But there's also plenty of adventure fiction where a character has a loyal animal sidekick at their side, and their bond is a bigger facet of the character rather than what they can do on their own, and what the character can do is very much varied. I think that's an archetype worth dedicating a class on.
Is there enough design space for a dedicated Animal Handler class (with requisite arcane / barbarian / soldier-y / ranger-y subclasses), where the features are mostly focused on the growth of the Pet? Or is 5e's action economy just too delicate to support a player basically having almost twice the turns as the others? With plenty of homebrewed Summoner / Pet classes floating in the net, people seem to think there's a niche for it, but aside from action economy, what are the pitfalls that should be taken into consideration when tackling this topic? Or do the existing pet subclasses already handle player needs?
Bonus questions: - To peeps who have tried the homebrewed classes (or subclasses) for this, what's your experience? - What's a good name for this theoretical class that can factor into both magic and martial approaches? Summoner is too spellcaster-y, Animal Handler is practically the skill name already, and Beastmaster is the Ranger subclass.
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2021.10.21 00:21 OdraciKamenloidEx 24 [M4F] California/anywhere looking for love in all the wrong places!

Hello hello! A bit about me, let's see. I'm 24, slim physique and 5'11. I have been working in the restaurant business as a BOH cook for about 5 or more years now and despite the absolute hell it is to work there, I enjoy my job. Other then that there is nothing much special about me.
I've been looking for a meaningful relationship, to give me a stronger reason to fight for. Come as you are and I will do the same. On my free time I like to game and watch YouTube, and thats pretty much it lmao. I haven't watched any TV shows or movies since 2016, why? I have this dumb dream of binge watching them with you, yeah you! I like pretty much anything so let's get watching lol. Other then that I don't know what else to say, if you'd like to know more, please do so.
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2021.10.21 00:21 hart2003 [OoT] [MM] My lost wood theory about why link is unaffected by the lost woods curse!(that is if the curse is real)

My theory goes like this because it's simple he is not affected because the forest knows him, he spent all of his life there even if he is not kokiri the forest will still recognize him as of the forest. And that's it that's my thoughts. Of coures I also think that the cures may also be just a legend aswell. what do you think?
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2021.10.21 00:21 yourlocaldogdealer 14f looking for friends boys or girls

14f looking for friends , i don’t really care if your a boy or girl
Hi !! I am 14, female . I live in Asia/Oceania . I am neurodivergent and introverted . I like drawing , animation and games . I am also into dream smp or origins smp. I play minecraft and BTD5 , I like deltarune and roblox. Should mention I also like drums but I haven’t got a set of drums for myself. but it’s been a long time since I played it )I use discord and Twitter .It’s been a lonely two years so I coming out of shell and trying to get friends ! Introduce urself if u wanna be friends and mention ur age please !!: I should mentioned that please be around my age my age 14-15 at max. obv wouldn’t accept any accs that are just created or nsfw
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2021.10.21 00:21 silentdante Disciples: Liberation?

anyone check this out? i googled for reviews and didnt find much at all, but then again thay may just reflect bad search-fu
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2021.10.21 00:21 DarkMatterLuigi This show getting better than it was?

Am I the only one that felt last season and first few episodes of season 7 a bit too bland and not the best this show has been? Up until the new lady director forget her name and the beef with Max I thought that was going to be interesting but I find her annoying. Hope to not offend anyone that likes her. Now, the last 2 episodes makes me think that the drama and story is getting good again and back to the old Amsterdam. Hope I'm making sense, there were just too many weak moments in season 6, I think it's getting back on track now! Others feel the same way?
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2021.10.21 00:21 mattkruse New Card Game Idea: Plunder! A pirate game of plundering, lying, and stealing (Looking for feedback on rules/gameplay)

I've always been fascinated with Game Theory and the switching point between cooperation and competition as it favors the player at the moment. I wanted to come up with an original game that focused on this aspect of GT. After brainstorming for a while and a few rounds of testing prior versions, below is what I've arrived at. This is still a work in progress!
I'm looking for thoughts and opinions about the gameplay and how to improve the cooperation/competition element. Also, the distribution of coins vs buccaneers, as well as minimum booty size are all critical to smooth play and difficult choices. I haven't figured out optimal values yet. I would love it if any of you tried the game with real people! I haven't been able to get a group of people to test this yet with the rules below.
Plunder A pirate game of plundering, lying, and stealing.
Players: 3-5 (?)
Version 1.0 Updated 2021-10-20
Overview Players are independent greedy pirates in search of treasure! Your goal is to work with the other pirates to plunder cities, accumulating a shared booty of loot. Then when it’s time to divide it up, you try to take as much of it for yourself as you can.
Card Deck This test version of Plunder is played with a standard deck of cards for convenience of play testing.
Number cards 2-10 are gold coins, with the number on the card being how many coins it is worth.
Jacks, Queens, Kings, and Aces are all Buccaneers. They are used to build your personal crew, which gives you more power to steal.
Objective Accumulate as much loot (coins) as you can after plundering 5 cities (rounds) of play. Coins are added together after all rounds, and the pirate with the most coins wins.
Gameplay At the beginning of each round, shuffle the deck and place it face-down in the center of the table. This is the draw deck.
Play consists of two phases: the Plundering phase and the Splitting phase.
Phase 1: Plundering During plundering, you work as a group to plunder the city and gather as much gold as possible, which you have all agreed to split. But of course, you are pirates and none of you actually intend to split it evenly!
On your turn, you draw 2 cards from the deck. Place one card face-up in the shared Booty at the center of the table. Buccaneers can be put into the Booty as well, as guards of the shared loot. Place the other card face-down in your personal stash. Play continues clockwise around the table.
After 3 rounds of plundering, the booty must be big enough to continue! If as a group you have not accumulated (15 * # Players) of coins in the Booty, then you have FAILED to plunder the city, the locals have revolted against you, and this city (round) is over! All players get a score of the NEGATIVE value of all the coins in their stash!
Plundering is a fine balance of accumulating your own stash while making sure the Booty is big enough. If you keep the large coin values for yourself and you fail to plunder the city, then your negative score will be greater than others. So you must decide carefully which card to keep and which to put into the Booty. You can also question other players as to why they keep contributing small values, and whether they are keeping big values for themselves instead of helping the group reach the goal!
Phase 2: Splitting After 3 rounds of plundering are complete and the Booty has reached minimum size, then gameplay changes. Pick up your stash into your hand. On your turn, you now have several options:

  1. Take Your Stash And Leave
  2. Continue Plundering
  3. Steal Another Pirate’s Stash
  4. Steal The Booty
  5. Propose A Split
1. Take Your Stash And Leave On your turn, you can exit the round, keep your stash, and you’re out.
2. Continue Plundering You may draw two cards as before, keeping one and adding one to the booty.
3. Steal Another Pirate’s Stash You may attack another pirate and try to steal their stash, removing them from the round and increasing your share of the Booty.
Announce who you are attacking, and how many buccaneers you are attacking with. Place that number of cards from your stash face down on the table. Of course, you are a priate. You can lie! The cards you place face down don’t actually have to be buccaneers!
The attacked player must decide to flee or defend. If the player flees, they keep their stash and exit the round.
If the player defends, then they place an equal number of cards face down, claiming them to be buccaneers. Of course, this could also be a lie.
You may now choose to back down or battle. If you back down, you both keep your stash and your turn is over. If you battle, then you show your cards. If the defender has at least as many buccaneers as you, then you have lost the battle. The other pirate takes your stash and you are out of this round.
4. Steal The Booty You can announce that you’re stealing the Booty and place your buccaneers face-up on the table.
Any other pirate can defend the Booty by adding their own buccaneers to the Booty Guards. If the combined total is equal or more than yours, then your steal attempt fails. You are executed by the other pirates, exit the round, and your stash gets put into the Booty.
If no other player can defend the Booty, then you take it all for yourself and the round is over.
5. Propose A Split You may propose to split the Booty at the beginning of your turn. If all remaining players agree, then the Splitting Trust Exercise begins. Otherwise, you may take another action. Proposing a split that other pirates don’t agree to does not take up your turn.
If only two pirates remain in the round after other pirates have left, then the splitting process is begun immediately. No need to propose it.
Splitting Trust Exercise When the Booty is being split, a trust exercise is played. Of course, since you are all pirates, there isn’t a lot of trust among you.
Each pirate lays down one card from their stash - either a coin (any value) or a buccaneer. When all cards are played, everyone reveals their card together.
If all pirates have played a coin card, then the Booty is split evenly.
If only one pirate has played a buccaneer, then they have stolen the Booty and take the whole thing.
If more than one pirate plays a buccaneer, then they lose the Booty and the remaining players split it. If only two players are splitting and both choose a buccaneer, then the Booty is lost and no one gets it.
During this splitting trust exercise, pirates must convince each other that they are splitting the Booty, even if they are trying to steal it. You can discuss with the other pirates before playing your card to try to determine if they are lying. You can change your mind and switch your card before the split is finalized. Once everyone is done deciding, cards are shown and the result is decided.
Winning The pirate with the most loot after plundering 5 cities wins!
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2021.10.21 00:21 Gins_and_Tonics [Moore] Anthony Edwards postgame on calling a timeout for Houston: “Yeah I was tellin the coach to call a damn timeout. You need a timeout. I’m hot.”

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2021.10.21 00:21 hearttfull Laptop for adobe

Total budget (in local currency) and country of purchase. Please do not use USD unless purchasing in the US:
Around $1400.00 Cad

Good performance, battery life and good cooling jn laptop, fans that won't be super noticable
Photo editing, and graphic design using adobe software.
Not specifically but as long as laptop is reliable for all these things.
Looking for 100% SRGB and the higher aRGB the better. I've been looking at the thinkbook 16p as they have a sale. But not sure if it's the best choice
Any suggestions would be super helpful!
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2021.10.21 00:21 hihowareu666 Boyfriend making me feel so insecure

Me(18F) and my boyfriend(19M) have what I consider to be a very strong and loving relationship. Two days ago I brought up to him the fact that his collaborative playlist with a female friend that he put so many of the songs he played for me and love songs he'd put on playlists for me was making me so insecure. It was really hurtful to me and when I brought it up to him all I got from him was why it was dumb for me to feel like that. He never ever talked about his female friends to me but I see them text him and he knows it makes me feel bad. This conversation, not really an argument but both of us were really emotional just spiraled. He told me my insecurities needed to be resolved before we could have a stable healthy relationship. I feel like my concern was valid and all I wanted was reassurance. The next day I just asked him to tell me he loved me and wants me only. I just needed reassurance and he told me he was too emotionally drained, which I understand. Is what I did that upsetting to our relationship? In addition to this I talked to him about an upcoming concert where I would meet up with both a female and male friend. He got upset by this so I said I wouldn't go because I never want him to feel insecure and value how he feels. Is this fair? I want to be able to be vulnerable and share my insecurities without being made to feel like I'm damaging him or my relationship. Advice please.
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2021.10.21 00:21 Videofabrikken Roller skating in Norway

Hi! I was filming this girl at inline skates this summer. I know there must be some improvements to be made. And i want to film her again this fall. What did we miss? where can we improve?
Please give me some constructive feedback..
Sorry for my bad english
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